Persuasion of Legislation

Persuasion of Legislation
LGBT adoption is an important issue that affects our society at this time, and it often seems that solutions to the problem are impossible to find. However, I have had the chance to give the matter some serious thought and I have an idea that I wanted to present to you.

The ongoing transformation in the modern society determines the changes in social institutions, one of which is the family. Traditional forms of family supplement existing alternative models of family relations. According to sociologists, the deviations from classical monogamy "can not longer be interpreted as the deviation from the norm, but should rather be seen as a sign of substantial and irreversible evolutionary changes in the institution of the family" (Satetan 2003). Despite the fact that the compulsory, compulsory heterosexuality protects the institution of marriage and the patriarchal relations, in modern American society has increased the number of same-sex families. At the same time, there is information and legislative vacuum, the absence of objective and reliable information and the laws as to the same-sex families in our society.

The same-sex marriages are allowed in many countries, such as the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South African Republic, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, and in many U.S. states (Massachusetts, District of Columbia, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, New Hampshire and other ). The fact of registration of a marriage gives the couple various specific rights: the right to joint property, the right to alimony, inheritance rights, social and health insurance, tax rebates and credits, the right to a name, the right not to testify in court against the spouse, the right to act a trustee of behalf of a spouse in the event of incapacity on health grounds, the right to dispose of the body of spouse in case of death, the right to joint parenting and foster care and other rights that unmarried couples are denied. However, there is no clear legal framework on the adoption and raising children in same-sex couples in Mississippi.

I ask to consider the adopting the law about the LGBT adoption (the adoption of children by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people) in Mississippi.
There are many disputes about gay marriages and adoption of children by homosexual couples, but gay couples should have the right to adopt and raise children, as there is shortage of foster parents for certain categories of children. As adoptive parents prefer to adopt infants, the other older children with disabilities, children with HIV or children from the category of "difficult" may stay in different shelters for years, remaining orphans. According to the research of American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, "about 30% of children in shelters are with serious emotional, behavioral problems or difficulties in development." (BBC News 2005). And the study conducted by the Institute for Williams, University of California in Los Angeles showed that same-sex couples more often than heterosexuals are willing to adopt older children, the disabled, suffering from various diseases or other children, the adoption of which is difficult. (BBC News 2005). According to the researchers, the ban on adoption of children by same-sex couples can bring U.S. losses ranging from 87 to 130 million dollars annually.

This issue is controversial, and therefore it is not solved yet. There are many opponents of gay marriage and the possibility of them to adopt children. For example, in a review of publications, a conservative Christian organization “Family Research Council”, stated that there was a link between male homosexuality and pedophilia, and that is why there are reasons of concerns as to the possibility of LGBT adoption (Ottosson 2006).

However, this assertion is not supported by the report of the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), which states that a large number of published sociological researches have established the probability of "fairly normality" of children raised in same-sex environment. (Ottosson 2006). In comparison of such children with children from heterosexual families, there were found the differences in the degree of popularity, social adaptation, gender role behavior, gender identity, intelligence, self-acceptance, emotional problems, interest in marriage and parenting, the self-control, moral development, independence, function ego, objective relations, or self-esteem” (BBC News 2005).

The American Psychological Association in their official statements from 2004 supported the idea of the adoption and upbringing of children in same-sex couples. American Medical Association issued a similar statement endorsing the practice of same-sex couples adopting children, and encourages its members to fight for the elimination of inequalities in health care service for these children. (Patterson 2007).

In 2007, the sociologists of University of Amsterdam conducted the study of 100 heterosexual and 100 lesbian couples in which children of 4-8 years old were brought up from the birth. The number of boys and girls in both groups was roughly the same. The study found that to detect the difference between the levels of welfare of children in those families was not possible. These data are consistent with previously conducted studies in the U.S.
The Ministry of Justice of Germany got the same conclusions on the results of research.

In 2009, there was published a research of universities Arlington and eastern California, which showed that the sexual preferences of parents have no influence on the development of emotional problems in adopted children.

So, why do homosexual couples want to have children? Homosexuals want to have normal families with children. Sexual orientation does not detract from the parental instincts of man. When it comes to children, homosexuals feel themselves as parents. Don’t they have the right for it? They do, especially considering the fact that the same-sex couples often express a desire to adopt children with disabilities, disadvantaged or terminally ill children. But sometimes our society is sure that they don’t have this right. Some people think that homosexuals have no right to parenthood because they can’t give the child a heterosexual family with the “father-mother", and it will affect the child's choice of sexual inclinations. But it is not true - sexual orientation is not transmitted. It has been proved that children in gay families do not become homo frequently than in heterosexual families. Even more, such a quality as tolerance to others' lifestyles is developed in children from same-sex families more often. And this is a product of civilization, while homophobia, as well as xenophobia, reflect the instincts of self-preservation, the basic model of human behavior.

The appearance of children in gay families is a carefully thought out and responsible step. Often children are conceived by artificial means in the clinic - IUI or IVF. And any medical procedure is expensive and harmful to health. Therefore, partners should be held, confident in each other and ready for the appearance of the child. They choose who will be the biological mother, and who will financially support the family. Such mutual moral responsibility is possible only in a couple of mature and close people.

The main problem in our society is that the same-sex couple, which chose the parenthood, one way or another, is faced with homophobia. There is misunderstanding, and dislike from the others – is the outward manifestation. This fear and self-doubt and fear for the child's internal experience due to missed social relations –is the internal homophobia. Every time, leaving the door of the house, homosexual goes into the obscurity. And the idea that the child's safety will also be under threat, and the possibility of rejection by his peers, make homosexual couple worry.

Almost every homosexual feel the break-up of stereotypes and changing outlook in the period of his identity and faced with rejection by society and family. Survived through this crisis, a person becomes stronger, more tolerant and wiser. These qualities help in life, in partnership and parenthood.

Children from gay families are more tolerant to other people. They are not shy to talk about sexual orientation. Homosexual family of loving people is better than an orphanage or family with one parent. The God is one for all people; God teaches to love people. No matter in what family the child is loved, the main is that he is surrounded by love.

It is necessary to allow same-sex families to adopt children. And then healthy, happy children, growing up in complete families will be able to refute the terrible tales and the popular opinion about the representatives of sexual minorities as a spiritless, indecent, detrimental and vicious people driven by a lust own satisfaction.

The adoption and parenting in same-sex couples is governed by the laws of some countries in Europe and some U.S. states. Sociological studies show that such couples are much more mature in their mind, more ready for parenting and more often express a desire to adopt and raise children with disabilities, people living with HIV or "difficult" older children. After many years of scientific research it was also found that children in such families do not become homosexual more often than in heterosexual families. Such children [1] demonstrate higher level of social adjustment, academic achievement and overall development than their peers from heterosexual marriages (Cooper 2001). The law on adoption and parenting in same-sex couples in Mississippi is needed in modern society and it should be adopted at the next legislative session.

I believe that it is the duty of every American to try to solve problems, not depend on government to do it for us. I hope this idea will reach you in some way and that it will be of some service. Thank you and good luck.

Regards,

Mike Monin

Work Cited:


BBC News (22 December 2005). "Gay marriage around the globe". Retrieved 27 July 2010.
Cooper, Jennifer A. (31 December 2001). Opinion on Common-Law Relationships. Government of Manitoba. Retrieved 27 July 2010.
Ottosson, Daniel. (November 2006). LGBT world legal wrap up survey. International Lesbian and Gay Association (ILGA). Retrieved 27 July 2010.
Patterson, Charlotte. (November 7. 2007.) Adolescents with Same-Sex Parents: Findings from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health. p. 2.
Satetan, William. Little Victories for Gay Adoption.10.06.2003. The Advocate. Issue 891. p. 38.

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