Narcissism

Narcissism
Narcissism is a character trait, consisting in the exclusive self-love. The term comes from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a beautiful young man who rejected the love of the nymph Echo. In punishment for this he was doomed in love with his own reflection in the lake, and died of that love.

In psychology and psychiatry excessive narcissism is considered as a serious personality dysfunction or personality disorder. It is often said about the narcissistic character accentuation. The word "narcissism", "narcissistic" and "narcissus" are usually used as a negative stained, indicating vanity, conceit, egotism or simple narcissism. With regard to the social group, they can sometimes mean elitism or indifference to the problems of other people.

Sigmund Freud believed that narcissism is an integral part of any person from his very birth, and was the first who used this term in psychology. Andrew Morrison claims that adult reasonable amount of healthy narcissism allows you to balance the satisfaction of their needs relative to others.

Among college students, both male and female, personality disorder is characterized by belief in their own unique, special situation, the superiority over other human beings; inflated opinion of their talents and achievements, preoccupation with fantasies about their success, certainly the expectation of good relations and unquestioning obedience from others, seeking admiration of others to confirm their uniqueness and value; they have also an inability to show empathy, they have their own ideas about their own freedom depicted from the rules that surround them.

Identity of those who grew up as narcissistic people, or just had too many traumatic experiences of interaction with them, in many cases bear a specific track, called "narcissistic injury", and represents a heightened vulnerability to shame, as well as difficulty in maintaining "boundaries" between themselves and other people. These factors can be very visible in adolescents, especially girls. Most people with narcissistic injury or, like narcissism persons, investing much effort in maintaining their sense of super-value, or inclined to obediently fulfill the whim of others, are afraid to face their anger. Meanwhile, in contrast to these narcissistic personalities, narcissistic people remain traumatized by a sufficient level of reflection, to be able to realize their own envy, shame and guilt.
Certainly, love of all that must begin with self-love, early, even in school. If a person treats himself with the contempt - he has no good will or in your personal life or career. Narcissism can be divided into several types.

In the first case, self-centered male student at college can be seen from a distance - measured off confident gait, straight shoulders, head held high. Typically, these are well- groomed people who are constantly working on themselves. They should be around the first and the best, so it should be allowed them to rest very often. People of this type are not selfish, they are usually friendly with everyone, trying where possible to provide assistance to a person who needs it (because it will add to them plus too), But only if such services do not conflict with their principles. They welcome self-criticism - in this way they only improve their position, but not all students, especially at college. With such people it is always interesting to talk to, at some point they want to imitate, and you want to follow them.

At the second stage of self-love there are people who also carefully work on each other, they can also be seen from afar, they feel confident in any situation, but unlike the first type, there is a very important point. They are sometimes a little lazy. They love themselves so they are better to them, in their view, hard to find, and such as they are a unit.

This type of the narcissistic people is not friendly and they choose a certain social circle of their principles. Criticism is not welcome. Everything depends on their mood. These people, as well as in the first case, become successful, if of course not completely grow lazy, which is extremely rare, but possible!
But a third type – people are so narcissistic that sometimes they cannot themselves lay down their own price! Among these people there are good professionals and mid-level professionals, but they all consider themselves as different and unique.

These are people with complex, they are hard at something to please, and they are always firm, only believe in their own opinion, not even listening to someone else. All others they deem unworthy of their level, at work and personal life do not feel interchangeable. This type of female in college is independent, they believe in themselves and almost always on their own – with no real friends. Male in this situation feel powerful and have many “friends”, they have plenty of attention and they are popular and independent too. It is hard to communicate with them, and even harder to find a common language. Often these people are accused of. To provide assistance they can only with the mutual benefit. This special treatment has an expression "Be simple and irresistible to your people!"
All in all, it is not easy for any person to live in the modern world and to perceive yourself as the best person, as an independent individual, as an icon for others, as there will be someone who will help him get back down to earth, as it is inevitable. People with narcissism will be hurt anyway, even more than others, because of their strange behavior and their incorrect thoughts, especially group mates in college will show them “the way out of narcissism”. It is important to find a proper balance between your own perception of everything and other people who should not be affected by narcissism.

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